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Bullying, no way! day

The students and staff at Calen District State College dressed in orange to show their support for ‘Bullying. No Way!’ Day. The school has implemented a PBL (Positive Behaviour for Learning) framework this year to better support the acquisition of appropriate behaviours through the explicit instruction of positive behaviours as well as acknowledging those students whose behaviour is always of a high standard. This day is also an opportunity for students and staff to express their shared beliefs that bullying and violence whether at school, at home, in the community or online is not acceptable and together we all saying ‘Bullying. No Way!'.
Bullying. No way
How parents and carers can respond
Children and young people need to know that they are being heard, that their feelings matter and that their issue will be investigated respectfully. Bullying should be taken seriously.
Listen calmly and get the full story. Your calm response is important to allow your child to tell you all about the situation. After they've told you their story, ask questions to get more details if you need to: who, what, where, when. Your first response when a child tells you of a concern can make a difference to the outcome.Although you may feel some strong emotions about your child's experience, try to keep calm to avoid more distress to your child.
Reassure your child they are not to blame. Many children blame themselves and this may make them feel even worse.  You could say things like, 'That sounds really hard to deal with. No one should have to put up with that.' or 'I'm so glad you told me. You should be able to feel safe at school; that's not fair at all'.
Ask your child what they want to do and what they want you to do.
A critical part of your response is to avoid jumping in to solve the problem.  While it is natural to want to protect your child, helping them to find their own solution is a better option. It helps them feel they have some power in the situation. Learn some strategies to talk about with your child. These pages provide tips and ideas for different bullying situations. One idea is to practise strategies at home to help your child feel more confident.
If your child is being bullied
If your child is bullying others
If your child has seen bullying
Watch the Quick Tips for Parents videos by Dr Michael Carr-Gregg for more ideas.
Contact the school. Your child may be reluctant for you to do this, so discuss the idea and reassure them that the school would want to know and is able to help. Make an appointment to meet with your child's teacher and, if you need to, ask to talk with the principal. Contact the school immediately if you have a concern about your child's safety. Read more about Parents and schools working together. Check in regularly with your child . Keep the conversations going. It can take time to resolve issues, so check in regularly with your child about their experiences and their feelings. Your ongoing support is important.
Parents and carers
Parents and other carers have a key role in preventing and responding to bullying.  You can:
• Learn what bullying is and what it is not. This is the first step in talking about how to prevent or respond to bullying with your child. 'Bullying' is a word that is used for lots of things that are not actually bullying. These other behaviours may be just as serious, but may require different responses.
• Talk about bullying with your child at home to make it easier for them to tell you if something happens. Make sure they know what bullying is and how they can respond. Help prepare your children to prevent online bullying and to know what to do if it happens.
• Start when your child is young to guide them to develop the social and emotional skills they will need to build positive relationships throughout their lives, including problem-solving skills.
• Recognise the warning signs of bullying. Although there may not be an issue, you should talk to your child if you have any concerns. Raise the topic generally if you don't want to ask directly. Be aware that many times children and young people won't ask for help, so it is important to know what to look for.
• Learn about how to respond appropriately if your child tells you about bullying. You can reassure your child by remaining calm and being supportive.
• Find out as much as you can about what has happened by talking calmly with your child. A good understanding about what has happened can also help you in communicating with the school about the situation.
• Read about strategies that can help. Practicing strategies at home with your child is a good way to prepare them to use them at school.
• Contact the school if bullying has occurred and the school needs to be involved. Read about how you and the school can work together to support your child, whether your child was bullied, bullied others, or witnessed bullying.
• Get involved in what your school is doing to prevent bullying.
• Learn about relevant state or national laws about bullying.
• Find resources for parents on online safety on the Student Wellbeing Hub about supporting your child to be safe online.
• Find additional assistance if, after working with your child and your school, you need more information or help to address the situation from outside the school.
What about all the factsheets and information on the BNW website.
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